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Men!
I haven't posted about internet dating in a while, mostly because I haven't been internet dating. but I still keep my profile up on some sites.
So...
About a week or two ago, I got an email from a guy that sounded promising. I emailed him back then he emailed me. The usual story. Then he sent an email with a long list of questions. I read it but didn't answer it immediately because I didn't have the time. Two days later, I sat down to answer and I'd received another email from him. An email demanding to know why I hadn't answered his previous email.
Okay, so I answered, explaining that I'd been busy and hadn't had time to get back to him. That day I got another email with a very patronising reprimand about my lag in responding. I was pretty damn angry, let me tell you. Apparently email ettiquette demands that if you aren't going to answer an email immediately, you email to let the other person know. Well, excuse me.
I wasn't sure what to do. I mean if this was how he acted after three emails, imagine going out with this guy... a real barrel of laughs.
The thing is, I have this fear in the back of my mind that if I say the wrong thing in these situations the guy will get really angry with me and there will be consequences. My first thought is to avoid making them angry. Weird, huh?
Then I thought about it. For starters, this dude has no concern about pissing me off. Secondly, he doesn't even know my real name. And last, but way not least, why the hell shouldn't I tell this guy to fuck off? Seriously, I don't have to email, talk to, go out with or do anything with any guy if I don't want to. I have no obligation to someone after a few emails and if he can't handle that then that is his problem.
I think guys use this fear sometimes to make women, especially me, do unwise and wimpy things. Well no more. I am going to be stronger and more assertive. What do I have to lose? A couple of dates with big knobjockey jerks, that's what.
From now on, any man that wants me (and sure there isn't exactly a queue around the block) will have to win me. Flowers graciously accepted.
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